AMBIGUITY IN GAY RELATIONSHIP
Everyone has gradations of intimacy, from acquaintances... to closer friends and lovers. Gay men don't have markers of engagement, marriage, and pregnancy that characterize the bond between heterosexual couples. This lack of socially recognized status can be a source of ambiguity in our relationships--are we friends, occasional sex partners, or lovers?
Though we don't need to follow heterosexual models in forming our own relationships, this ambiguity becomes problematic when it interferes with the _expression of feelings. You may feel attracted sexually without having any idea as to whether you'll find yourselves compatible in other ways. If you have sex before you become emotionally involved, it can be confusing trying to figure out what else you want from each other. You may end up sleeping together once or twice, and then feel awkward trying to redefine the relationship.
Neither of you may be ready to make the commitment that continued sexual involvement may imply, but instead of dealing with that uncertainty by talking about options and expectations, it may seem easier not to see each other. Not every relationship has to last forever in order for us to get some value from it, but if you had more in mind than just recreational sex, you can end up feeling seduced and abandoned.
Some men are scared off by the intensity of their initial involvement. If you're not sure how you feel, you may hesitate to become involved emotionally. But you don't have to know what you want in the very beginning. After seeing each other for a while, you may need some distance in order to sort through your feelings. What may simply be a desire on the part of one man to reclaim himself may be misinterpreted by the other as a lack of interest in building a relationship. You can avoid the misunderstanding by talking about your need for time apart, while still affirming your interest in getting to know each other.
You can be clear about what you want at the moment, even if that involves a limit to the degree of emotional or sexual involvement you're interested in. You may feel vulnerable saying how you feel, especially when you're just first getting to know each other, but being honest about your feelings increases your capacity for intimacy in the future.
Though we don't need to follow heterosexual models in forming our own relationships, this ambiguity becomes problematic when it interferes with the _expression of feelings. You may feel attracted sexually without having any idea as to whether you'll find yourselves compatible in other ways. If you have sex before you become emotionally involved, it can be confusing trying to figure out what else you want from each other. You may end up sleeping together once or twice, and then feel awkward trying to redefine the relationship.
Neither of you may be ready to make the commitment that continued sexual involvement may imply, but instead of dealing with that uncertainty by talking about options and expectations, it may seem easier not to see each other. Not every relationship has to last forever in order for us to get some value from it, but if you had more in mind than just recreational sex, you can end up feeling seduced and abandoned.
Some men are scared off by the intensity of their initial involvement. If you're not sure how you feel, you may hesitate to become involved emotionally. But you don't have to know what you want in the very beginning. After seeing each other for a while, you may need some distance in order to sort through your feelings. What may simply be a desire on the part of one man to reclaim himself may be misinterpreted by the other as a lack of interest in building a relationship. You can avoid the misunderstanding by talking about your need for time apart, while still affirming your interest in getting to know each other.
You can be clear about what you want at the moment, even if that involves a limit to the degree of emotional or sexual involvement you're interested in. You may feel vulnerable saying how you feel, especially when you're just first getting to know each other, but being honest about your feelings increases your capacity for intimacy in the future.
Rest Rest
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